DONT BE A IDIOT LIKE ME

I went through a series of depression during the period of July 2022. I had no energy to wake up or process things. I lost most of my analytical thinking capacity. I didn’t want to do anything. I had a friend named Rishu who was also preparing for the exam with me, and she lived near my home.

As I was going through everything in my head, I was lacking motivation towards life.Rishu would call me

Ambitiousness and lazy

This hurt me deeply. I was in a position where even waking up felt like a struggle, and being called lazy at that time was incredibly painful. After my exam, I started learning how to ride a scooty, and now I have gained some proficiency.

Then one day, Rishu called me and asked me to grab a bite at a nearby restaurant. I got ready and picked her up. As we reached the restaurant, she suggested that we stay outside and get the food as takeout. I agreed. The food took longer than expected to prepare.

We are waiting outside because of ur dress,if we go inside everyone will judge me with u.Why do u have to weat this?

I felt a bit dejected.I dress in a certain way because I have body image issue(insecurities).When I returned home, I looked a bit sad, and once again, she commented on it, asking

Why do u look sad and depressed all the time u need sympathy crybaby

One day, she was showing me her family pictures and asked for mine. I showed her pictures of me with my dad that we took at a fancy restaurant in Hyderabad. She criticized me, saying .

U went wearing this chappri dress and u must be looking odd one out

To add insult to injury, due to the excessive heat in Hyderabad, my lips and face started getting a mild infection, leaving dark patches and a burning sensation. I visited many doctors, but she would just say

u look like a paralyzed women.

And so, my life went on.

Recently, she came running to me, and when I asked her what happened, she told me about her childhood experience of having a dark shade of skin and how she started getting black marks near her eyes due to pigmentation issues. One of her relatives made fun of her, and in her class, when she had a doubt, her friends called her dumb. Both incidents made her cry as if there was no tomorrow, and she expressed how mean the world was and how insecure she felt.

When someone showed faults with herself she understood the pain.One thing we must always remember is no one can change their looks they are god gift and they are unique we have to embrace them.

What I want to say is:

Don’t be an idiot like me who tolerates disrespect in relationships.

Second thing is

1. 1.You have a different body type than what is considered “ideal” and make fun of someone’s body.
2. You have a different sexual orientation and use derogatory terms to refer to someone.
3. You are overweight or obese and call someone names based on their weight.
4. You have a different skin color and call someone a kalu
5. “You have glasses and refer to someone using the term ‘four-eyes.’”
6. “You are a tall person and use the term ‘giant’ to refer to someone.”
7. You have a gap between your teeth and insult someone by calling them ‘bucktooth’.”
8. You have a different socioeconomic status and make fun of someone’s clothes or possessions.
9. You have a different family structure and make fun of someone’s parents or siblings.

U know the pain why do u say something similar to hurt other

third thing is

1. Embrace your body just the way it is, regardless of size or shape.
2. Beauty comes in all sizes, and you are beautiful just as you are.
3. Don’t let society’s standards define your worth. Love yourself unconditionally.
4. Remember, your weight doesn’t determine your value as a person.
5. Every body is unique and deserves respect and acceptance.
6. Celebrate the diversity of bodies around you and appreciate the beauty in each one.
7. Self-confidence and self-love should never be hindered by the number on a scale.
8. Your worth is not measured by your weight; it’s measured by your character and actions.
9. Spread kindness and acceptance, focusing on inner qualities rather than external appearances.
10. Let go of body comparisons and embrace your own journey to self-acceptance.